Tuesday, January 31, 2017
One of the toughest conversations a family has with an aging relative is convincing them to get help. A source of anxiety for the elderly person is becoming a burden on their family. Loved ones are stressing about when and how to have the conversation about homecare with their parent. Many families have the same experience, their parents are slowing down and depending on them for assistance in and out of the home. Broaching the subject of hiring a Home Health Aide takes picking the right moment as well as being educated about the process.
Before you approach your loved one, know your options. Research community programs and home care companies in your area. Understanding the process before you speak to mom or dad will make you more prepared for their questions. Meet with homecare providers in the area. Remember to keep your parent's lifestyle in mind during the search and visits to providers. If your mom wants to shop or go to lunch daily, find a homecare company that can provide transportation. Ask around, word of mouth referrals from people you trust will help with the anxiety of finding the right company to provide homecare for your loved one. Look on social media for homecare companies and read their reviews. You can also use online senior care reviews from sources like Angie's List and Caring.com for unbiased family reviews. Before you pick a company, make sure the company is an accredited agency which follows the regulations and guidelines of your state. Accredited agencies follow standards and use background checked certified caregivers to fill positions.
Once you are prepared, decide where, when and who should be in the conversation. Be honest and communicate your feelings about their health and safety. Focus on facts and issues that brought on the conversation such as falls, meals not eaten, laundry etc. Remind them it is their decision, a good point to make is homecare means staying home. Many elderly people do not want to leave their home for an assisted living, nursing home etc. Resistance is common; giving the person a chance to make the choice for themselves will go a long way for their comfort with the situation. Framing the conversation in a way that gives them choices will ease their anxiety about the process.